MySleepMate

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Sleep, researched properly

Everything here is written in the first person by one named human, checked against primary sources, and linked to those sources at the foot of the page. Where the evidence is thin, it says so, including when that is inconvenient for the calculator on the front page.

Start here

The three pieces the calculator is built on. Read them in this order if you are reading all three.

Sleeping better, and what actually helped

A first-hand record of five changes, each traced to whatever evidence exists behind it. Some of it is very strong. Some of it is almost nothing, and I say which is which.

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Five things I changed to sleep better, and how good the evidence is for each

Fixed wake time, phone out of the bedroom, morning sunlight, exercise, seeing people. Ranked by how good the evidence actually is, which turns out to be wildly uneven. Four of the five were a 1972 clinical protocol I had never heard of.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Sleep regularity beats sleep duration, on the biggest study we have

Across 88,975 people wearing accelerometers, when you sleep predicted mortality more strongly than how long. The most regular fifth had around 30% lower risk. And the caveats it deserves, applied consistently.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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The 20-minute rule: get out of bed, and where the number comes from

Not folk advice. It is stimulus control therapy, formalised in 1972, and the only nonpharmacological insomnia treatment with the highest AASM rating. The threshold across studies ranged from 10 to 25 minutes, and you should not be timing it.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Morning sunlight and sleep: a week of camping moved people 1.4 hours

Eight people camped for a week with no electric light and their melatonin onset shifted 1.4 hours earlier, in every single participant, night owls included. Plus the evening half of the light problem that nobody mentions.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Loneliness does not shorten your sleep, it breaks it up

Lonely people had poorer sleep efficiency and more time awake after falling asleep, while total duration was unchanged. The research I said did not exist, filed under a word I had not searched for.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Getting the phone out of the bedroom, and why blue light is the least of it

The study everyone cites used four hours of screen reading, not a two-minute check. The stronger argument is conditioning. Plus my own 28 nights: 16 minutes to fall asleep with a screen, 9 without.

Published 31 Aug 2026

Where the numbers come from

Every number people repeat about sleep, traced back to the research it actually came from. Mostly American sources, because that is where most of this guidance originates.

Source index · Reference

Where sleep numbers come from

Eight claims traced to their primary source: the 90-minute cycle, the eight-hour rule, the twenty-minute nap, the ten-hour caffeine cutoff and more. Three of the eight do not survive the trace intact. Updated as claims get checked.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Does napping wreck your sleep at night? It depends on two things

Short and early is generally fine. Long and late is the combination that costs you, because a nap spends the sleep pressure you need at bedtime. Plus why this matters much more if you already sleep badly.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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How to actually fall asleep for a nap, with my own numbers

My median across 28 nights was 12 minutes, with one night in ten over 31. If you are awake at minute fifteen you are in an ordinary range. What moved my number, and the release valve nobody leads with.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Are long naps bad for you? What those studies can and cannot show

Long naps are associated with worse health outcomes. But ill people nap more, and the researchers say so themselves. The association is real; the causal claim is not established.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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The coffee nap: the one nap trick with a real trial behind it

Drink coffee, then nap 15 to 20 minutes. In the trial that tested all three conditions, the combination cut driving incidents to about 9% of placebo against 34% for caffeine alone. Plus the bedtime cost nobody mentions.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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The best time of day to nap, and why it has nothing to do with lunch

Early afternoon, and not because of your sandwich. The dip shows up in people who have eaten nothing and do not know what time it is, which makes it the body clock rather than digestion.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Why you feel worse after a nap, and why almost nothing fixes it

Sleep inertia is measurable impairment, not a mood. One study found a 41% performance drop on waking from deep sleep, and a 2019 review found no reactive countermeasure with clear evidence behind it. A problem to prevent rather than treat.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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Where the 20-minute nap rule actually came from

The only study that put 5, 10, 20 and 30-minute naps side by side found ten minutes best, and that twenty did nothing measurable for the first thirty-five minutes after waking. Plus what the NASA study everyone cites actually measured.

Published 31 Aug 2026

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The 10-3-2-1-0 sleep rule, traced back to whoever made it up

It is described everywhere as expert-backed. It came from a fitness and productivity author in a 2016 HuffPost article, and has never been tested as a protocol. Each of the five numbers checked against the study it is credited to.

Published 31 Aug 2026

How this started

Less a reference page than an explanation of why the rest of them exist.

What you will not find here

Supplement affiliate links, mattress rankings, or a claim that a free web tool can fix your sleep. If something on this site turns out to be wrong, it goes in the corrections log with the date and what changed, rather than being quietly edited. The method behind every article is set out in the editorial standards, and what this site is for is set out in full on the about page.

The tool these notes are about

Two modes, adjustable cycle length, adjustable time to fall asleep, and every assumption printed on the page rather than buried.

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